Autumn is here even though it is still warm, the holidays are over, children are back to school and mums and dads are trying to establish a family routine that works. There is no doubt that parenting can be complex and sometimes overwhelming. Here, in this collection of new library books and DVDs, you will find some fabulous ideas and tips to inspire you and help you to understand your child and yourself as a parent. And, if you have found family mealtimes challenging, take a look at Jo Turner's book titled: "Mealtimes without mayhem: the easy to follow, how-to guidebook to get your family to eat together". This book offers plenty of ideas on how to manage family meals and use this time to connect and grow together as a family.
Books of interest
Intentional parenting / Yvonne Sum (2013)
"A fresh approach to parenting that will get results for you and your kids. Everyone belongs to a tribe. It is not just the football club or the mothers' group, in a world powered by the instant accessibility of the internet there are many different tribes catering for every aspect of your life. Navigating those tribes is a tricky business. It takes leadership, and the first tribe we learn this from is our family. Parenting can be hard - especially if you may have been finding it challenging to 'read the book' that is your child. It takes intention, attention and action . . . planning, persistence, and practice, practice, practice. So, what does it mean for YOU to be a parent? What is your intention as a parent? How will you fulfill this? What do you commit to do? What is your First step? Taking a good look at her own family Yvonne Sum identified seven foundation stones of successful parenting, the 7R's of parenting. Each one is fully explored and explained in Intentional Parenting, and together they are the basis of leading your family tribe. The 7R's are all lessons that are equally applicable in business. But, unlike a leader in a giant corporation, you cannot sack your family and, unlike many businesses today, you are highly invested in their future success. Together that is the carrot and the stick of investing time in developing your leadership role for the benefit of the family. Intentional parenting is a journey that begins with your conscious decision to become a leader and a PLAYPAL to your family. I simply love the perspectives learnt from my children and those I meet on my parenting journey, and what I pass on along the way. Dr Yvonne Sum." (Syndetics summary)
BabyCalm : a guide for calmer babies & happier parents / Sarah Ockwell-Smith. (2012)
"Since having her first child nine years ago, Sarah Ockwell-Smith has worked tirelessly to prepare parents for the birth of their child. An antenatal teacher and a doula, with a background in psychology, she founded an award-winning company Babycalm (t) with one aim in mind - to turn stressed-out new parents and crying babies into happier parents and calmer babies. She has a great understanding of the minds of new parents and is passionate about gentle parenting - letting parents know that it is OK to trust their instincts, that there are other ways to cope as a new mother without putting your baby into a strict routine or resorting to controlled crying. This book takes a different approach to the vast array of books out there - helping new parents to enjoy their baby and to trust in their own parenting instincts, offering a refreshing alternative to prescriptive, routine-led parenting. BABYCALM will help you understand your baby and yourself as a new parent. It offers plenty of ideas about calming techniques and how to encourage your baby to sleep well and will enable you to feel confident and at ease in your new role. A happy mum and a calm baby go hand in hand and this book will get you off to a great start." (Syndetics summary)
The thriving child : parenting successfully through allergies, asthma, and other common challenges / Erica Reid. (2012)
"A prescriptive guidebook for parents describes the author's struggles to diagnose and protect her allergy-sufferer daughter, recounting how she detoxified her home, changed the family's diet, and learned whole-child disciplinary strategies." (Syndetics summary)
Bullied : what every parent, teacher, and kid needs to know about ending the cycle of fear / Carrie Goldman ; [foreword by Dorothy Espelage].
"Carrie Goldman became an unexpected voice for the antibullying movement after her blog post about her daughter Katie's bullying experience went viral and an online community of support generated international attention. In Bullied, Goldman brings together the expertise of leading authorities with the candid accounts of families dealing firsthand with peer victimization to present proven strategies and concrete tools for teaching children how to speak up and carry themselves with confidence; call each other out on cruelty; resolve conflict; cope with teasing, taunting, physical abuse, and cyberbullying; and be smart consumers of technology and media. As a mother, she calls on us all--families, schools, communities, retailers, celebrities, and media--to fiercely examine our own stereotypes and embrace our joint responsibility for creating a culture of acceptance and respect.--From publisher description." (Syndetics summary)
First words : a parent's step-by-step guide to helping a child with speech and language delays / Barbara Levine Offenbacher.
"This book gives parents the information they need to allow them to stimulate their childs speech and language. Parents are given actual samples of how children with autism and other language delays respond differently to questions and how their responses can be redirected in order to start building connections. Offenbacher explains terms such as speech and language, typical language delay, PDD- Pervasive Developmental Delay, ASD-Autism Spectrum Disorder, Aspergers Syndrome, and ABA- Applied Behavioral Analysis. The book outlines the typical developmental steps of speech and language acquisition, and where parents should begin when starting to help their child. It suggests the types of toys, and experiences that stimulate language, as well as a floor plan to arrange a work area and learning center in their home. It provides check lists for them to evaluate their child every step of the way and set meaningful and attainable goals. This book is not meant to replace professional intervention. But it guides parents in becoming a para-speech partner in maximizing the stimulation their child receives so they develop skills for communicating" (Syndetics summary)
Mealtimes without mayhem : the easy to follow, how-to guidebook to get your family to eat together / Jo Turner.
"'Mealtimes without mayhem' is an invaluable tool that will help parents successfully manage meals and use this time to connect and grow together as a family unit. Written with Jo's embracing warmth and humour, this book is driven by a loving mother's desire to share her own experience along with the advice of the many experts she has interviewed for this book. Today's families can rejoice in the fact that Jo is willing to share her practical approach, tips and resources to help other busy parents put their own family first. Jo Turner has a successful career background in finance and banking both in Australia and the USA, all built while maintaining a modern busy lifestyle and raising two even busier children. She is the inventor of the 'Toosh Coosh' kids' support seat that encourages children to sit comfortably at a table during meal times. It was on this journey that Jo realised the need to highlight the importance of family mealtimes and decided to write 'Mealtimes without mayhem - the easy to follow, how to guidebook to get your family to eat together". (Syndetics summary)
Weelicious : 140 fast, fresh, and easy recipes / Catherine McCord.
"Every parent knows how difficult it is to get to get kids eating happily and healthily. Catherine McCord has the answer: Weelicious! Creator of the wildly popular blog Weelicious.com, Catherine, who honed her cooking skills at Manhattan's Institute of Culinary Education, strongly believes in the 'one family/one meal' idea-preparing a single, scrumptious meal the entire family can sit down and enjoy together rather than having to act as 'short order cook' for kids who each want something different. In Weelicious, she offers dozens of recipes and tips for creating quick, easy, healthy, and fun food that moms, dads, and young children of any age will absolutely adore-from the most persnickety infants to the pickiest grade-schoolers." (Syndetics summary)."
Steve Biddulph's raising girls.
"'Steve Biddulph's Raising Boys' was a global phenomenon. The first book in a generation to look at boys' specific needs, parents loved its clarity and warm insights into their sons' inner world. But today, things have changed. It's girls that are in trouble. There has been a sudden and universal deterioration in girls' mental health, starting in primary school and devastating the teen years. 'Steve Biddulph's Raising Girls' is both a guidebook and a call-to-arms for parents. The five key stages of girlhood are laid out so that you know exactly what matters at which age, and how to build strength and connectedness into your daughter from infancy onwards. 'Raising Girls' is both fierce and tender in its mission to help girls more at every age. It's a book for parents who love their daughters deeply, whether they are newborns, teenagers, young women or anywhere in between. Feeling secure, becoming an explorer, getting along with others, finding her soul, and becoming a woman at last, there is a clear map of girls' minds that accepts no limitations, narrow roles or selling-out of your daughter's potential or uniqueness. All the hazards are signposted bullying, eating disorders, body image and depression, social media harms and helps as are concrete and simple measures for both mums and dads to help prevent their daughters from becoming victims. Parenthood is restored to an exciting journey, not one worry after another, as it's so often portrayed. Steve talks to the world's leading voices on girls needs and makes their ideas clear and simple, adding his own humour and experience through stories that you will never forget. Even the illustrations, by Kimio Kubo, provide unique and moving glimpses into the inner lives of girls. Along with his fellow psychologists worldwide, Steve is angry at the exploitation and harm being done to girls today. With 'Raising Girls' he strives to spark a movement to end the trashing of girlhood; equipping parents to deal with the modern world, and getting the media off the backs of our daughters. 'Raising Girls' is powerful, practical and positive. Your heart, head and hands will be strengthened by its message". (Syndetics summary)
Making couples happy :) / John Aiken & Alison Leigh.
"Making Couples Happy, the companion to the ABC-TV series, uses science to help couples rediscover happiness in their relationships and get them on the path to enduring love. Couples and singles will identify with the raw honesty of common hurts and resentments, disillusionment and despair that plague many relationships. Equally, they will share in the breakthroughs and ultimate triumphs, and learn the four simple steps that will help them better talk, support, connect and dream together. Making Couples Happy readers who follow the easy steps and activities can expect a significant improvement in how they relate to their partners, and learn to communicate more effectively, argue less, be kinder and achieve new levels of trust and intimacy." (Syndetics summary)
Side by side : 20 collaborative projects for crafting with your kids / Tsia Carson ; photographs by Meredith Heuer.
"Crafting is always more fun and more meaningful when it's shared with those you love. Discover the joy of working alongside your child while creating arts and crafts that inspire. With these twenty whimsical projects in a variety of mediums, you and your child will find fun ways to work collaboratively and independently - together on the same project, or side-by-side on related projects"--Cover.(courtesy of Synetics)
Sound & Vision
A selection of DVDs and Audiobooks is held in the Central and branch libraries covering topics relating to parenting and families. At the Central Library, they are located in the northwest corner of the ground floor. Following are some suggested titles:
Suburgatory. The complete first season [videorecording] / created by Emily Kapnek. / A Pantelion Film and Televisa Film (DVD)
"George Altman, a single father who decides to get away from New York City to the suburbs so he can give his teenage daughter, Tessa, a better life after he finds an unopened box of condoms in her drawer. However, their move to the suburbs has the daughter wondering if they just entered the world of 'The Stepford Wives' after they see how 'perfect' their new locale is, right down to the neighbors who welcome them into the cul-de-sac" - (Cover description)
High school revolution [videorecording] / Bleiberg Entertainment presents a Park Ex Pictures production(DVD).
"Leon Bronstein is a young man who has made the discovery that his birth name is the same as that of Leon Trotsky, the celebrated Russian revolutionary and socialist theorist. This coincidence leads Leon to believe that he is the reincarnation of Trotsky and it is his destiny to follow his path as closely as possible, which is a bit difficult when you have rich parents and attend an upscale private school in Montreal." (Cover)
Brother and sister [sound recording],
"Where do we come from? Where do we belong? For David and Natalie, this need to know is more urgent than for most people, because they are adopted. Born to different mothers, brought up by the same parents, they have grown up as brother and sister and are fiercely loyal to one another. However, their decision - in their late thirties - to embark on a journey to find their birth mothers is no straightforward matter." (Syndetics summary)
- Family & Community Services
New Zealand Government website providing information on raising children, child development, nutrition, family finances and more.
A great resource for information on car rental schemes, Plunket line, clinic and marae visits, parenting education and antenatal classes.
- Family Advice from Barnados NZ
Parenting advice and resources relating to most aspects of family life
- Childcare online
New Zealand site, contains information and news on parenting.
New Zealand Foodsafe was set up in 1998 with a small group of representatives from the food industry, consumer groups, public health groups, MAF Food (now the New Zealand Food Safety Authority) and the Ministry of Health, to promote consistent and appropriate food safety messages to New Zealand consumers. The group's aim is to reduce the country's high levels of foodborne illness through education on safe food handling practices in the home.
- Kids Friendly NZ
New Zealand's Online Magazine for families living and travelling in this country. The site provides detailed information covering local activities in Wellington and right throughout New Zealand.
- NZ Kindergartens
Everything you need to know about kindy, with links to other websites, discussion groups and parental information.
- Te Kete Ipurangi, The Online Learning Centre
TKI is a bilingual portal-plus web community which provides quality assured educational material for teachers, school managers, and the wider education community. It is an initiative of the Ministry of Education. Parents are partners in the learning journey of their children. The Ministry of Education has a range of materials and information for parents to assist them to work in partnership with their local education centres and schools. This site provides many links to information and materials that may be of interest to parents.
- WCC Community Directory
Links to community and information groups around Wellington, including heath, child-care, women and recreation.
Support / Advice
- Community Law Centres
Services for people with unmet legal needs and who cannot afford legal services. They also provide legal advice and assistance and in some cases representation in court, law-related education, information and also law reform and advocacy on behalf of communities. This site has a national list of Community Law Centres.
- Learning and Behaviour Charitable Trust NZ
This site is designed to give you the information and resources you may need if you know someone with a learning or behaviour difficulty such as ADD, ADHD, Aspergers, Autism and Dyslexia.
Netsafe provides advice on keeping your kids safe online. This organisation is co-sponsored by the Ministry of Education.
- NZ Association for Gifted Children
The Association exists to promote the needs of gifted children at national level and support and foster initiatives at local level which meet those needs.
- NZ Down Syndrome Association
The NZDSA offers new parent support, activities, family events, guest speakers and individual support and advocacy, a newsletter and information packs.
- New Zealand Speakeasy Association
A support group for people who stutter. This site includes; descriptions and causes of stuttering, tips for parents, therapy, support and contacts.
A New Zealand site for parents and other family members dealing with the loss of a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth or new born death. It includes advice on how to get through the first few days, arranging a funeral, parent's own stories, newsletters and will soon have a list of Wellington Bereavement Councillors.
- Rescare NZ
Supporting carers of people with intellectual disabilities.
- Family & Community Services
New Zealand Government website providing information on raising children, child development, nutrition, family finances and more.
A portal designed to help parents find information held on 28 education government websites belonging to seven education agencies such as Career Services Rapuara, the Education Review Office, the Ministry of Education, and the New Zealand Qualifications Authority.
- Strengthening Families
Strengthening Families provides coordinated support for families who are working with more than two government agencies. Agencies and families work together to develop joint solutions, rather than each agency dealing with one part of the problem and never seeing the bigger picture.
- Education Review Office
The government department which reports publicly on the quality of education in all New Zealand schools and early childhood services, including private schools, kura kaupapa Maori (Maori language immersion schools), special schools and nga kohanga reo (Maori language early childhood groups).
- Employment Relations Service
Information about the rights and obligations of employees and employers in respect of parental leave, incorporating recent changes to parental leave entitlements. Features section on determining your leave entitlement, and IRD forms.
- Special Education
Ministry of Education page.
- Work and Income New Zealand
Information on Community Services Cards, Domestic Purposes Benefit, Help with Child-care Costs, the Domestic Purposes Benefit and other assistance.
|Children and infants nutrition||613.2 & 649.3|
|Children's books about pregnancy, childbirth and babies||612.6 & Children's Fiction|
|Cooking for babies||641.5622|
|Education in New Zealand||372.9931 & 373.931|
|Fertility and Infertility||616.692 & 618.178|
|Health and Fitness||613.25|
|Infant's and Children's clothing||746.432|
|Gay and Lesbian parents||306.874|
|General Crafts||745.5 & 746|
|Learning to read||372.4|
|Miscarriage and Infant death||618.392|
|Parent participating in reading||649.58|
|Single parent families||306.856|
|Sleep disorders in children||618.92849 & 649.64|
|Travel with children||910.202|
|Working mothers||306.8743 & 331.44|
You can search our online databases at mygateway.info and browse across thousands of articles on a range of topics, online magazines and newspapers, or link to a site that has the answers you need. Wellington City Libraries card holders can access mygateway.info from home or the library, using their library card number and surname.
The following online resources are particularly useful for parents and their families' needs:
Study & homework
Information for study and homework is right at your fingertips.Encyclopedias, reference works, tips, articles, newspapers and more... Check it out here.
Gale Health and Wellness Resource Center
A reliable source to find health information including Diseases & Conditions, Alternative Medicine and Drugs & Herbal Remedies
This site is a collection of quality health information from the world's largest medical library, the U.S. National Library of Medicine. It offers extensive information from the National Institutes of Health and other trusted sources on over 600 diseases and conditions.
EBSCO MasterFILE Premier
This multidisciplinary database provides full text for nearly 1,700 general reference publications, including these parenting magazines: Parents, Mothering, Baby Talk and Kiwi.
Events & Collection
3 Bears Breakfast March at the Central Library
An event for children and families to celebrate the NZ Book Month and support the release of "Three Bears sort of" by NZ authors Yvonne Morrison and Donovan Bixley. Children enjoyed the giveaways and breakfast - porridge, Cherrios, milk and Milo - provided by 'Scholastic', as well as, the colouring competition with lots of spot prizes and the stories read by our Superstars Librarians Emily and Rebecca L. For more info about children's programmes see our Kids What's On page.
Magazines on general parenting are shelved in the Science and Humanities collection on the first floor of the Central Library. They are also available in the branches on the magazine stands and mygatewayinfo Please ask at any library enquiries desk if you need help locating the magazine of your choice.
Here are links into the library catalogue for our most popular magazines on parenting:
Important: The information on this topic is NOT designed to replace the advice and care that can be obtained from a legal professional and should NOT be regarded as professional advice.
Wellington City Libraries may freely provide legal resources from their reference collection to assist customers conducting various types of legal research. However, the library will not offer advice on any legal issues.
The Central Library has a comprehensive collection of books on family and youth law, including a complete set of current statutes and regulations.
Brookers Family Law (346.015 BRO) is part of the reference collection (for in-library use only) and is kept at the 2nd floor enquiries desk.
Youth and the law : a comprehensive guide to the law relating to young people, from birth to adulthood. (346.0135 PAW) may be found on the Children Young Adult lending shelves, at the Central library and library branches. It is also kept at the 2nd floor enquiries desk, Central library. Please ask at any library enquiries desk if you need help locating these resources.
This page is written and maintained by Celia. My aim is to keep you informed about the parenting sections of the library and to highlight parts of the collection which may interest you. I'd be pleased to hear from you about this page - you can email me with any feedback.